Don’t Telecast your Past

One beautiful morning, I along with my two friends, went to our society garden for a walk. It was a beautiful morning with sun smiling above us, birds were singing the morning rhyme, and dank green grasses beneath welcomed us. We could feel the chilly breeze on our face. It was serene and tranquil dawn in which we felt like three butterflies enjoying the essence of flowers.

As we broke into conversation, one of my friend started blaming his luck, his life, his society, his family and his past. He started throwing negative vibrations and soon we could see his outburst.

boomIt was a burst of grunge in the garden of flowers like a jet of negativity in the ocean of positivity.

Believe me, we left that place within fifteen minutes. My day came to an end before even it had started.

Before you read further, let me ask you couple of questions.

“Do you carry your past together?”

“Do you (sometime) remember those horrifying moments which drain your energy out of your soul?”

If you nod affirmatively to the above asked questions then you are drifting a bit from your positive path and if not rectified soon, it will going to take your life downwards sooner or later.

We all are human beings and we take our previous memories together. It’s a human tendency. The question isn’t about remembering mistakes or criticisms which we did or received in our earlier lives, but the question is taking those hair-raising time along with our lives and more importantly allowing those memories to ruin our present and future. These are like slow poison which kill you gently.

It’s like entering in a dark tunnel where you see nothing. Complete darkness. Complete black out. No light, still we move further with hope and faith on our little baby steps. Time may be daunting but with brave heart we move towards the search of light, towards a ray of hope. We come across some difficulties, we stumble in between still we never stop. We keep moving in search of that hopeful torchlight.

Finally, when we come out of the dark tunnel, we embrace the light. We dismantle the mask of fearful and dress the shield of relaxing attitude and wear smile.

This tunnel journey do teach us many things. It makes us internally strong and teaches us about patience and courageousness.

What will you carry along with you: A negative memory (darkness and stumbles) or a positive one (learning experiences) from this tunnel journey?

You said right, obviously a positive ones and will make sure that we do not repeat the mistakes which we did.

What will happen if we constantly carry those weirdo negatives and indulge ourselves in scary and spine-chilling thoughts?

I have seen many people across my circle, who keep talking about their failures, past negative experiences, illnesses etc. and once you listen to these people, you start feeling a negative vibes in the positive atmosphere like fishy smell in the garden of roses.

Its like carrying burdens on your own shoulders.

Result: They get trapped in the negative web and overthrow their own life. And their family’s life.

We must learn from our past but we should never carry them on our shoulders all the time. Covert those time into learning lessons and change your day, your life.

“Forgetting bad time leads to good and beautiful life.”

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Criticisms are blessing in disguise

“The nearer you go towards the light, bigger the shadow becomes.”

Same goes with the word Criticism. If you are planning to do something great and incredible, which can drop an impact on the world then you have to cross a lot of barriers and obstacles and these barriers are living bodies, called Critics and obstacles which they throw on you are coined as Criticisms.

criticizingSomeone told me, “The day you start receiving criticisms, feel that you are going in the right direction.”

“The greatest threat to freedom is the absence of criticism.”

– Wole Soyinka

We must never take these sharp criticisms so seriously. They are temporary and can be easily overcome if taken them smartly and carefully. I have seen many people in my professional as well as personal life who get carried away by these irrelevant criticisms.

Here are the simple yet very powerful tips to avoid CRITICISMS:

  1. Filter out negative and absorb the positive words
  2. Don’t concentrate on the harsh parts of critics
  3. Keep your mind calm and don’t get excited
  4. Smile when people bombard on you
  5. Stop thinking when critics leave your place or you leave theirs
  6. Change your mood and fresh up your mind
  7. Forget and forgive

Isn’t that simple?

Believe me, I always follow these points and no one can destroy my confidence. I simply love facing critics and as I said earlier, if taken smartly we can learn a lot from them and their harsh speeches. It builds our strength and makes us strong.

“I like criticism. It makes you strong.”

– LeBron James

Receivers are always been beneficiary than givers. Be a strong receiver and learn as much as from these negative givers and turn your life into positive.

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”

– Dale Carnegie

Don’t trap yourself inside the room. Open the windows of your heart and keep your mind broad and deal smartly.

Criticisms if taken wisely become blessings in disguise.

Keep Smiling..

Thanks,

Aviral