Lighten up your Tunnel – Rowena Marshall

This wonderful day I would like to introduce you one of the beautiful, passionate lady from R - EditSouth Africa. Rowena Marshall.

We met on a group via LinkedIn and became great friends. Got inspired by her life’s lessons. The way she handled her life all alone is truly inspiring. She’s seen ups and downs but never lost courage and kept fighting. Truly inspirational.

Yesterday while talking to her, I asked her if she can write something for my blog.

She says, “When Aviral asked me if I would write something for his blog, I honestly thought he had lost his mind.  What could a 44-year-old, manic-depressive, lonely, single mother have to say that anyone else would want to hear?  I spent a good few minutes thinking about it and realized that no matter who we are, where we come from, what we do, we all have something to share and offer.

She pen downs nicely with beautiful words….

“Life is a wealth of experiences and in sharing them, we can enrich each other’s lives.”

There is a saying “Laugh, and the world laughs with you.  Cry, and you cry alone”.

I have had occasion to experience this saying first hand, and I recently discovered that friends can be found in the strangest places.

Being something of a loner makes going through tough times just a little harder, especially since my main confidant, my Mom, passed away suddenly just two years ago.

A short while ago, I hit a major relationship wobbly and was teetering dangerously on the edge of my sanity and was definitely ready to plunge, head first, into the deep abyss of depression.

rashad_evansAfter opening a link, forwarded by a friend, I discovered the immense benefits of the internet.  Here I found a wealth of multiple motivational sites; self-help blogs; and support groups, where hundreds of faceless, and often nameless people fight their own demons; offer their support, and share their experiences with the rest of us troubled minions… It was here, through sharing, reading, and listening, I gradually found my sanity again, and started my journey towards becoming whole.

We are never really alone.  We may feel like our troubles are insurmountable and that there is no end in sight, and that all we can do is to crumple to the floor, curl up, cry, and wallow in the deep depths of self-pity and anger, and finally just give up the fight.

if-you-ever-dare-to-fight-hatredWAIT!  DON’T!!  WE DON’T NEED TO DO THAT ANYMORE!!!

There IS a way…

There IS light at the end of that long dark tunnel….

The world is FULL of amazing people.  People who want to reach out and touch the souls of total strangers, and bring living and loving back into their lives.

I found this online… and it has changed my life forever.

I learnt the about the simple act of repeating basic affirmations: giving myself permission to love who I am; to be proud of myself; to acknowledge that I am worth more than I give myself credit for.  So many affirmations to feed the soul… the list is just endless.  Yes, I felt stupid doing them at first, but once I started experiencing that positive change, deep inside, feeling stupid suddenly didn’t seem like such a big deal anymore.

imagesThrough this marvelous invention called the internet, I found and made so many wonderful, beautiful friends.

Friends to cry with.

Friends to laugh with.

Friends to share with.

Friends to lean on.

Friends, who are there for me, anytime, day or night.

Friends, who despite having never met me face to face, ask daily about my wellbeing.

Friends, who have nothing to gain or lose, by sharing their stories and their advice…

Friends who care.

I know that I will NEVER have to cry alone, ever again.  And my laughter, well, that flows easily and more often now… because, through this modern marvel, I have found ME.  I have come in contact with a wealth of amazing people, from all over the world, who have the capacity to love, share, help, and care about total strangers.

Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life….

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Rules for Being AMAZING

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Rules for Being Amazing

Shake dirt and take a step

How do you define ‘Life’?

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You ask a teenager about life, he or she will define life a hilarious and enjoyable jaunty journey.

If asked to elders, they will share their invaluable experiences about life.

If you ask me, I would say, ‘Life is a learning lesson’.

Life teachLife is full of ups and downs. Even if you are born with a golden spoon, someday life will teach you a lesson. Every day we learn something from it which makes us smarter and wiser. Take lessons as a stepping stones, which support our future just like a spinal cord and make us stronger. It helps us to crack down the complex issues.

It depends on us how we take life, learn from it and how we use these lessons like a key in tough times just like the donkey did in this motivational story, a story of a Donkey and his master.*

Story goes like this.

One fine day, a farmer was going to the market with his old donkey. Donkey did not notice the pit and unfortunately fell down into it.

The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.

Finally, he came to conclusion and decided that the animal was old, and the pit needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He called all his friends to come over and help him.

They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the pit.

Initially, stony dirt hit the animal and with each dirt he cried horrendously.

Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the pit. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing.

He would shake it off and take a step up.

As the farmer’s friends continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up.

Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

Moral of the Story:

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the pit is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

Just keep movingKeep Smiling… 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral