Expectation thrills, but ills

Today, I am 31 years old with very small career and professional life and three decades of personal life, I can proudly say that I have learned and still learning a lot. Most of the learning lessons came in the last five years of span. I feel lucky.

When we talk about lessons of life, we cannot exclude ‘Expectations’. Because the word Expect directly jabs at our heart, mind and soul.

Expectations play a major role in building ourselves if taken on a positive note. It makes us internally stronger.

michael jordanJust imagine, you are sitting with smiling face in an air-conditioned auditorium listening to an inspiring speech from one of the greatest inspirations on this planet. As time passes by, his euphonious speech webs around your heart, soothes you and make your soul inspired. You are enjoying every bit of seconds. You are expecting more inspiring and heartwarming words which is going to change your life forever.

Suddenly, from nowhere, another person takes the microphone and starts criticising heavily. Starts throwing tantrums and harsh words. Unexpectedly words musical to your ears converted into poignant.

Thorns took shape of roses. Negativity takes place of positivity in a trice. It’s like someone splashed the water on your face while you were indulged in beautiful dreams.

Expectations are like slow sweet poison which gives an instant reaction.

It’s like slowly you build a castle of trust and once it’s built suddenly your loved one ran over and thrashed it. Perplexedly your jaws dropped and leave you dumbfounded.

expectationsI do not say that we should never expect from our loved ones. Obviously we must, but just to be on safer side, it has to be in limit so even if your expectations thrashed, it shouldn’t hurt you.

The less you expect, lesser you get hurt. I know just reading it seems simple but let me tell you my dear friend, in real life it is not as simple as it seems.

It needs patience. A strong heart. A true synchronisation between Heart, Mind and importantly Eyes.

You must be guessing why eyes? Well, when you got hurt in your past, dint you cry or haven’t those moments reflected in your eyes?

Yes it hurts but if we think this from a positive angle then these saddened moments makes us strong and teach us.

It teaches us how to react in such overwrought situations. It teaches us how to handle our state of mind. It teaches us how not to get carried away from these emotional outbursts.

Yes these moments teach us a lot the way it taught me. And today proudly I can say, ‘I am much stronger.’

Never expect or expect least from your friends, loved ones and colleagues. Do for them, help them and be a helping hand in their lives but don’t expect anything in return. Do for them and forget.

Result?

low expectationYou will be the happiest person on this earth.

Keep Smiling and Expect Less. 🙂

How to Never Give Up

how to never give up

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Stay Alive – Age is just a number. Said numerous times and it is just a two digit number. To accomplish your dreams age doesn’t play any role in it. I have read several stories about leaders and entrepreneurs who started their journey lately and left an impact on the world.

Steve Jobs, who left impact on the world with Apple actually did his best works in his forties. Jim Clark started companies named ‘Silicon Graphics‘ and ‘Netscape‘ at the age of 38 and 50 respectively. You must have played games at Facebook, Google+ and on your Apple or Android phones. These games are provided by ‘Zynga‘, a California-based company. Man behind Zynga is Mark Pincus, started this at the age of 40.

“Dreams and Goals have nothing to do with age.”

Lower your Expectations – Always dream big. But when it comes to practical life, always start from small amount and from scratch. Money or less investment doesn’t matter, what matters is our Passion for our work and Patience. Do your work passionately and give time some time. Expect less. We have to have deep patience. Preparing a masterpiece takes time and on the way towards preparing your masterpiece, you will face lots of difficulties. These difficulties will test your ability and patience. We should never leave hope.

“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope”

– Martin Luthar King, Jr

Stronger – You are stronger than you think. One should never underestimate his or her abilities. We all are born with talents and are unique in our own capabilities. Work hard and do it from your heart. We may not be a ‘born-with-silver-spoon’ guy but we must work so hard that our life becomes inspirational and golden.

“I am not born with golden or platinum spoon, but my confidence and perseverance will make my spoon golden.”

Persist – Whatever the circumstances are, whatever problems we face, whatever happens or even at some time luck may stop favoring us but we should never, never give up. We must not stop. Keep trying. If one path doesn’t work, think the alternative, do a bit of calculations and achieve the goal. In my dictionary failure means learning.

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”

Maya Angelou

Fake It – When you wake up in the morning, go in your balcony and treat yourself like a King. Go in front of the mirror and look yourself like a rising star. We must be Day Dreamers. Act like a successful personality, talk like a leader and live life like a King. Imitate the big leaders and work accordingly. But don’t just dream; plan and work to achieve your dream.

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

– Harriet Tubman

Don’t Compare – Careful! Don’t compare yourself with successful people. They have their own story. You really don’t know their story. Write your own and work in that direction. Make your story an inspiration. Yes, we can get inspired from our mentor’s story and use their life as a reference. But never compare yourself with any one. Unfortunately if you failed to achieve your goal, it will crop a jealous factor. Result is crystal clear – Relationships will get doomed and ruined.

 “When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.” 

– Lao Tzu

The Dip – Life is full of ups and downs. Every successful has to go through rough phase and these rough parts should be taken as learning lessons. I always believe, after night, day comes. Just like a sculptor carves the stone to give it a masterpiece. A bad time actually tests us, make us learn, make us internally stronger and prepare us for our future.

“A temporary pain always give you gain.”

So, never give up. Achieve your goals and change the world.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral