Stop dancing to negative tunes

When I was a kid, I hardly used to go out of my home. Even when bell would ring I don’t dare to open the door.

I used to skip social gatherings, festive evenings etc. and even if I had to go (forcefully) and attend these, then hardly used to talk to any one there. This doesn’t mean, I was like ‘not-to-mingle’ person but I was worried, what people will say about me. How will they react once I start talking to them. Lots of questions would arise in my mind.

I was living in an isolated world.

It happens with every one of us. It must have happened with you, if not hats off to you. I wish I would be like you.

What will people say at my back’ put me in the isolation. I could not handle criticism. This word ‘Criticism’ made me shiver. It made me frightened. Socializing with people and rubbing shoulders with them for me was like walking alone in timorous and terrified midnight in the jungle.

I was living in the midst of Critics, their criticisms and people used to gossip about me. Unfortunately, I danced to their negative tunes.

“People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong. Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?”

– Nhat Hanh

Before I move forward, let me ask you one simple question.

If you accidently caught in the marshland then what will you do to get out of it?

Yes, you guessed right!

You free your body and will try to grab some support and slowly try to come out of it. The more you make yourself rigid and stay there, the more you go deeper inside the marshy land. You know the result.

These negative people in our society who talks behind our back or criticizes us openly are not lesser than the marshy land. The more you stay with them, higher the negativity surrounds you. The more time you spend with them, more unhappiness will start revolving around your soul like satellites orbiting around the planets.

Wherever you go, they and their echoes will follow you.

What to do in these circumstances, when you get caught with these negative people while socializing?

keep calmWill you stop going or visiting these ecstatic places (the way I did)? Will you stop talking to incredible people who can inspire you, inject the positivity inside you and who can share life changing ideas?

No!

Just ignore them, live your life freely. Put the wings on your back and keep visiting numerous people no matter what they talk about you or how they react at your entrances or exits. Don’t waste your energy after them and their idiotic gossips. Entertaining these people are waste of energy, time and most importantly spoiling our mood and soul. If you don’t love talking to someone, just politely ignore them with smile on your face. Trust me, your million dollar smile will kill their egos and confidence.

ignore negative peopleNot going at such thrilled places because of the negative people will isolate you, the way it did me. Yes, I was hundred percent wrong and obviously was immature in my teenage days. But when I got to know my mistake, suddenly I worked on it and changed my attitude and it changed my life.

Now, whenever I go to parties or socialize with others, I just ignore the criticisms with my beautiful smile and never let their negativity enter in my soul. I filter out their negative impacts and receive positive vibrations from the environment, the way modern air conditioners filter out dust particles and provide you chilled air and give you soothing experience.

We go to social gatherings and meet various incredible people and increase our network. Strengthen our relationships with those who love us and care for us. Going there and not talking to beautiful people is like walking in the beautiful garden and avoiding the fragrances of the beautiful flowers.

In garden, you may get few thorns as well but because of these, will you stop visiting the garden?

Keep Smiling…. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Let your fragrance rejuvenate

maya angelouPeople come and go in our lives.  Everyone writes their own chapters in the book of life.

Some people leave us and we forget them, while others leave and we remember special moments.  These people have become unforgettable.

Why are we reminded of their words?  Why do we remember the special moments with them?  Why do we feel love and affection for them when they are gone?

One day someone asked me, “Do you love pets?”

I replied, “Yes I do.”

He continued, “Do you have any?”

I said, “No, but someday I would like to have a dog. I love dogs!”

After listening to my reply, he thought for a while and asked, “Aviral, do you know why we care for dogs when they give nothing back?  Sheep give wool and cows give milk but we don’t care for them.  Why do we care for dogs?”

This conversation made me think.  Human beings do love dogs!  Dogs become family and in some cases, more than family!  In many cases, we spend thousands of dollars on our beloved dogs.  Why do we do this?

The answer is simple.  Dogs give LOVE!

Dogs will desperately wait for their master and greet them at the door, jump on them with Dogs love for masterexcitement and lick them to show their love.

I have experienced this level of affection with my uncles black Labrador. My uncle lives on the 9th floor and whenever he comes back and parks his car in the parking garage he starts barking and waits for him at the door.

Imagine if you were to come home from a stress filled day and your significant other were to greet you in a way similar to that of a dog.  How would you feel if you were showered with this type of love and affection?

You would likely feel Energetic, Rejuvenated and you would be left with a smile on your face.  It would ease your stress and remove your uneasiness.

The moral is, people remember how you make them feel and the memories you’ve left them with.

If you have made someone feel special then they will never forget you.  They will desire your presence.

On the other hand, if you hurt someone’s feelings and make them feel bad they will neither forget nor will they forgive you.

So, spread love and make your family members and loved ones feel the fragrance of your soul.

Keep Smiling.. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Edited and forwarded by Mr. Jeff Botch