Rules of Happiness

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Tips to Selfcare

Positivity comes from Self caring.

If we do not care about our selves, we should not expect Positive attitude. Self caring comes from Self development. And we develop ourselves by Learning. Learning new skills. And to learn we have to be Passionate.

buddhaListed here are the few steps to Self Care:

  • Trust your Instincts.
  • Never ever give up your Dreams.
  • Never lose Hope.
  • Respect Time.
  • If it feels wrong, Stop doing it or Don’t do it.
  • Never use bad words for anyone.
  • Don’t Underestimate yourself.
  • Say ‘NO’ when you feel it.
  • Say ‘YES’ when you feel it.
  • Be Kind and Polite to everyone you meet.
  • Stay away from Negativity and Negative People.
  • Don’t be a people Pleaser as you can not please everyone.
  • Wear Smile on your lips.
  • Let go of what you can’t control.
  • Never renege on your Promises.
  • Love your Life.
  • Love people.
  • Expect Less.

If I have missed some, please feel free to add in the comments below.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Expect Less, Respect Dress

Yesterday I along with my friend were discussing about Relationships and Expectations from our closed ones. The topic of discussion was how expectations directly or indirectly ruin the best of the relations. We shared our experiences and knowledge with each other and finally concluded that, in relationship were love binds us, expectation also plays its own role. It’s like in garden of grass, weeds do grow in small patches and you cannot get rid of them at all.

Later on she asked me, ‘Aviral can you please help me in writing a caption for my WhatsApp status?

Thought for a second and wrote – “Expect Less, Respect Dress

As soon as she read the caption she burst into laughter and laughingly asked me, ‘What does this mean as it sounds so weird?

I replied, ‘Actually sounds a bit funny but let me explain. We should expect less from our friends and family, do you agree?

She responded affirmatively.

I continued, ‘When we say that we should have less expectations from our loved ones then does this make sense to have high expectations from acquaintances or impossible people who made our lives difficult.

dont expectYou guessed right, we should never expect from impossible people. Like you, she replied, ‘We should never expect from these people.

Expectations are just like weeds, they are redundant and whatever effort you put in to get rid of them they still grow and grow again and again. Similarly, we tell ourselves that now we will stop expecting from our closed ones but by end of the day knowingly or unknowingly we expect from them.

Don’t we? 🙂

Yes we do. Because we love them. Because our heart don’t restrict us to do this. Sometime we also expect from acquaints or impossible people. Obviously our rate of expectations with such people is less than as compared to our closed ones. But we do a fraction of bit. Because they are also our part of life.

These people hurt us. Make our lives miserable. Disrespect us. Annoy us. Ignore us. And they can go to any extent to make us unhappy.

Now the question here is, Should we disrespect them in return?

I am sorry to say this, the answer is “No”.

We should never disrespect anyone in our life no matter how they behave with us. Because the more you respect people, back in their heart they start respecting you. Obviously it may take time as it depends on person to person but I can bet you they will respect you in return. If not in front of you but they will for sure at your back.

They will dress you of Respect. People will start respecting you. They start loving and liking you even if they do not show in your presence but believe me a seed of respect will surely plant in somewhere in their heart.

On the other hand, disrespecting people in return will surely be a win situation for them and not for you because by badmouthing you will be the sufferer not them as they want you to react.

And in the worst case, we must ignore these peculiar spooks and loony situations as ignoring is one of the best solutions.

Your mind is made for better ideas and heart is for loving people not for hatred and ego. And most importantly we must never lose our self-respect.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Expectation thrills, but ills

Today, I am 31 years old with very small career and professional life and three decades of personal life, I can proudly say that I have learned and still learning a lot. Most of the learning lessons came in the last five years of span. I feel lucky.

When we talk about lessons of life, we cannot exclude ‘Expectations’. Because the word Expect directly jabs at our heart, mind and soul.

Expectations play a major role in building ourselves if taken on a positive note. It makes us internally stronger.

michael jordanJust imagine, you are sitting with smiling face in an air-conditioned auditorium listening to an inspiring speech from one of the greatest inspirations on this planet. As time passes by, his euphonious speech webs around your heart, soothes you and make your soul inspired. You are enjoying every bit of seconds. You are expecting more inspiring and heartwarming words which is going to change your life forever.

Suddenly, from nowhere, another person takes the microphone and starts criticising heavily. Starts throwing tantrums and harsh words. Unexpectedly words musical to your ears converted into poignant.

Thorns took shape of roses. Negativity takes place of positivity in a trice. It’s like someone splashed the water on your face while you were indulged in beautiful dreams.

Expectations are like slow sweet poison which gives an instant reaction.

It’s like slowly you build a castle of trust and once it’s built suddenly your loved one ran over and thrashed it. Perplexedly your jaws dropped and leave you dumbfounded.

expectationsI do not say that we should never expect from our loved ones. Obviously we must, but just to be on safer side, it has to be in limit so even if your expectations thrashed, it shouldn’t hurt you.

The less you expect, lesser you get hurt. I know just reading it seems simple but let me tell you my dear friend, in real life it is not as simple as it seems.

It needs patience. A strong heart. A true synchronisation between Heart, Mind and importantly Eyes.

You must be guessing why eyes? Well, when you got hurt in your past, dint you cry or haven’t those moments reflected in your eyes?

Yes it hurts but if we think this from a positive angle then these saddened moments makes us strong and teach us.

It teaches us how to react in such overwrought situations. It teaches us how to handle our state of mind. It teaches us how not to get carried away from these emotional outbursts.

Yes these moments teach us a lot the way it taught me. And today proudly I can say, ‘I am much stronger.’

Never expect or expect least from your friends, loved ones and colleagues. Do for them, help them and be a helping hand in their lives but don’t expect anything in return. Do for them and forget.

Result?

low expectationYou will be the happiest person on this earth.

Keep Smiling and Expect Less. 🙂