Expect Less, Respect Dress

Yesterday I along with my friend were discussing about Relationships and Expectations from our closed ones. The topic of discussion was how expectations directly or indirectly ruin the best of the relations. We shared our experiences and knowledge with each other and finally concluded that, in relationship were love binds us, expectation also plays its own role. It’s like in garden of grass, weeds do grow in small patches and you cannot get rid of them at all.

Later on she asked me, ‘Aviral can you please help me in writing a caption for my WhatsApp status?

Thought for a second and wrote – “Expect Less, Respect Dress

As soon as she read the caption she burst into laughter and laughingly asked me, ‘What does this mean as it sounds so weird?

I replied, ‘Actually sounds a bit funny but let me explain. We should expect less from our friends and family, do you agree?

She responded affirmatively.

I continued, ‘When we say that we should have less expectations from our loved ones then does this make sense to have high expectations from acquaintances or impossible people who made our lives difficult.

dont expectYou guessed right, we should never expect from impossible people. Like you, she replied, ‘We should never expect from these people.

Expectations are just like weeds, they are redundant and whatever effort you put in to get rid of them they still grow and grow again and again. Similarly, we tell ourselves that now we will stop expecting from our closed ones but by end of the day knowingly or unknowingly we expect from them.

Don’t we? 🙂

Yes we do. Because we love them. Because our heart don’t restrict us to do this. Sometime we also expect from acquaints or impossible people. Obviously our rate of expectations with such people is less than as compared to our closed ones. But we do a fraction of bit. Because they are also our part of life.

These people hurt us. Make our lives miserable. Disrespect us. Annoy us. Ignore us. And they can go to any extent to make us unhappy.

Now the question here is, Should we disrespect them in return?

I am sorry to say this, the answer is “No”.

We should never disrespect anyone in our life no matter how they behave with us. Because the more you respect people, back in their heart they start respecting you. Obviously it may take time as it depends on person to person but I can bet you they will respect you in return. If not in front of you but they will for sure at your back.

They will dress you of Respect. People will start respecting you. They start loving and liking you even if they do not show in your presence but believe me a seed of respect will surely plant in somewhere in their heart.

On the other hand, disrespecting people in return will surely be a win situation for them and not for you because by badmouthing you will be the sufferer not them as they want you to react.

And in the worst case, we must ignore these peculiar spooks and loony situations as ignoring is one of the best solutions.

Your mind is made for better ideas and heart is for loving people not for hatred and ego. And most importantly we must never lose our self-respect.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

10 lessons in Life

10 lessons in Life to pass onto other abandoned souls….

A formula for Success….

Lesson 1 – Foster throughout your life – you never have to walk through life alone. Your family doesn’t have to be blood.

Lesson 2 – Acknowledge your experiences – take time to reflect on the events from your life and more importantly what you have learned from those experiences.

Lesson 3 – Appreciate the people and things around you. Thank them and show them you are grateful. The more love you give, the more you receive.

Lesson 4 – Invest in yourself – and by invest I don’t mean with money, I mean believe in yourself, your goals and what you can achieve.

Lesson 5 – Manifest your life – Picture what you want, visualize, vision boards, talk about it, ask for it and watch as miracles happen.

Lesson 6 – Be open to receiving and great full of miracles.

Lesson 7 – Give – whether it is your time, your advice, your energy. Make an effort to help others. The ironic thing about sharing is the more you give, the more you get.

Lesson 8 – Understand the Universe, God, Angels what ever you prefer to call it, has you back! There is a grand order to things and everything will unfold as it is meant to. If its not good, you are not at the end yet.

Lesson 9 – Recognize others who are following your footsteps and help them in their journey. We live our experiences so we can teach from them.

Lesson 10 – Inspire! Inspire yourself and others. Share inspiring stories, messages, quotes, videos that will help other souls.

By: Emma Mildon

Source: http://www.emmamildon.com/

Keep Smiling.. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

 

The ASAP Model

Life is all about learning and implementing. We start learning from our childhood and become smart kids even before we enter into the so-called ‘Teenage Years’ or we get smashed by life and learn from our experiences.

ASAP Model

Learning from books, from parents or from experiences give us an identity, a unique personality which puts us in a different league, a league of smart intellectuals which not only enhances our professional lives but also makes our personal lives livable and inspirational.

From the very start of our life, we must inject positive thinking. Whatever situations we fall into, we must always be calm and patient. We must not panic or ever lose hope, no matter what the results are.

“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”

– Martin Luther King Jr.

Yes, reading between the lines is quite easy but practically it is not as easy or simple as it seems especially in our learning days or when we were kids. Even when I was a kid I never thought about negative or positive impacts on lives. I never allowed my mind to get indulged with positive attitudes, so how can I expect a small kid to have these embedded into theirs. Basically we never cared about these ecstatic words.

My father always told me, ”You must always greet your elders in the morning with a smile and must respect your relatives and friends.”

Similarly, we can have a positive approach for every problem we face with a Smile. Mr. Jeff BotchJeff Botch, a prolific and passionate writer and inspirational personality says, “From the moment a person wakes up in the morning they have a choice to have a positive attitude or a negative attitude. Personally, I wake up and tell myself that I am going to have an awesome day! I try to smile at people I pass and greet them with a positive greeting. We have an obligation to pull people up rather than drag them down with our negative expressions and attitudes.

Nicely and beautifully said, I continue to mention in my articles that smiling has an enormous strength which can make a person energetic instantly (Read my article, Smile has Greatest Wavelength). We have a responsibility to pull our neighbors up by complementing.  It rejuvenate us.

Mr. Jeff Botch, Regional Sales Manager by Profession has created a development plan, coined ASAP Model. Obviously it doesn’t stand for ‘As Soon As Possible”.  It is a Development Formula created by Mr. Jeff which enhances our personal development, stands for “ATTITUDE, SELF DEVELOPMENT, ACTION AND PERSISTENCE”.

In addition to this, I call it the “Fabulous 4” and every word directly depends on the other. If even one is missing then it directly impacts our life which further reflects on our Family/Society. We determine our attitude which develops us not externally but from internally and that can be seen in our actions and to achieve this we need to be persistent and consistent, just like a great player in his or her sport.

“Staying Healthy and Consistent is paramount”

– Shawn Johnson

We have to be disciplined in our actions, in our attitude and have patience and always keep smiling. It is not a one day or one year or one decade process.  It is a Life Process. We have to be a consistent player throughout our life and when we become consistent we enter the league of legends like Mahatma Gandhi, Maya Angelou and Martin Luther King, Jr. to name a few.

Always try to learn as much as possible and make your life a blast, an inspiration to others and never forget to smile in every situation.

Keep Smiling.. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral