Stop dancing to negative tunes

When I was a kid, I hardly used to go out of my home. Even when bell would ring I don’t dare to open the door.

I used to skip social gatherings, festive evenings etc. and even if I had to go (forcefully) and attend these, then hardly used to talk to any one there. This doesn’t mean, I was like ‘not-to-mingle’ person but I was worried, what people will say about me. How will they react once I start talking to them. Lots of questions would arise in my mind.

I was living in an isolated world.

It happens with every one of us. It must have happened with you, if not hats off to you. I wish I would be like you.

What will people say at my back’ put me in the isolation. I could not handle criticism. This word ‘Criticism’ made me shiver. It made me frightened. Socializing with people and rubbing shoulders with them for me was like walking alone in timorous and terrified midnight in the jungle.

I was living in the midst of Critics, their criticisms and people used to gossip about me. Unfortunately, I danced to their negative tunes.

“People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong. Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?”

– Nhat Hanh

Before I move forward, let me ask you one simple question.

If you accidently caught in the marshland then what will you do to get out of it?

Yes, you guessed right!

You free your body and will try to grab some support and slowly try to come out of it. The more you make yourself rigid and stay there, the more you go deeper inside the marshy land. You know the result.

These negative people in our society who talks behind our back or criticizes us openly are not lesser than the marshy land. The more you stay with them, higher the negativity surrounds you. The more time you spend with them, more unhappiness will start revolving around your soul like satellites orbiting around the planets.

Wherever you go, they and their echoes will follow you.

What to do in these circumstances, when you get caught with these negative people while socializing?

keep calmWill you stop going or visiting these ecstatic places (the way I did)? Will you stop talking to incredible people who can inspire you, inject the positivity inside you and who can share life changing ideas?

No!

Just ignore them, live your life freely. Put the wings on your back and keep visiting numerous people no matter what they talk about you or how they react at your entrances or exits. Don’t waste your energy after them and their idiotic gossips. Entertaining these people are waste of energy, time and most importantly spoiling our mood and soul. If you don’t love talking to someone, just politely ignore them with smile on your face. Trust me, your million dollar smile will kill their egos and confidence.

ignore negative peopleNot going at such thrilled places because of the negative people will isolate you, the way it did me. Yes, I was hundred percent wrong and obviously was immature in my teenage days. But when I got to know my mistake, suddenly I worked on it and changed my attitude and it changed my life.

Now, whenever I go to parties or socialize with others, I just ignore the criticisms with my beautiful smile and never let their negativity enter in my soul. I filter out their negative impacts and receive positive vibrations from the environment, the way modern air conditioners filter out dust particles and provide you chilled air and give you soothing experience.

We go to social gatherings and meet various incredible people and increase our network. Strengthen our relationships with those who love us and care for us. Going there and not talking to beautiful people is like walking in the beautiful garden and avoiding the fragrances of the beautiful flowers.

In garden, you may get few thorns as well but because of these, will you stop visiting the garden?

Keep Smiling…. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Criticisms are blessing in disguise

“The nearer you go towards the light, bigger the shadow becomes.”

Same goes with the word Criticism. If you are planning to do something great and incredible, which can drop an impact on the world then you have to cross a lot of barriers and obstacles and these barriers are living bodies, called Critics and obstacles which they throw on you are coined as Criticisms.

criticizingSomeone told me, “The day you start receiving criticisms, feel that you are going in the right direction.”

“The greatest threat to freedom is the absence of criticism.”

– Wole Soyinka

We must never take these sharp criticisms so seriously. They are temporary and can be easily overcome if taken them smartly and carefully. I have seen many people in my professional as well as personal life who get carried away by these irrelevant criticisms.

Here are the simple yet very powerful tips to avoid CRITICISMS:

  1. Filter out negative and absorb the positive words
  2. Don’t concentrate on the harsh parts of critics
  3. Keep your mind calm and don’t get excited
  4. Smile when people bombard on you
  5. Stop thinking when critics leave your place or you leave theirs
  6. Change your mood and fresh up your mind
  7. Forget and forgive

Isn’t that simple?

Believe me, I always follow these points and no one can destroy my confidence. I simply love facing critics and as I said earlier, if taken smartly we can learn a lot from them and their harsh speeches. It builds our strength and makes us strong.

“I like criticism. It makes you strong.”

– LeBron James

Receivers are always been beneficiary than givers. Be a strong receiver and learn as much as from these negative givers and turn your life into positive.

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”

– Dale Carnegie

Don’t trap yourself inside the room. Open the windows of your heart and keep your mind broad and deal smartly.

Criticisms if taken wisely become blessings in disguise.

Keep Smiling..

Thanks,

Aviral

Filter out pessimists and be an optimist

One fine evening, you are feeling a bit low and have fallen into deep thought. The door bell rings and as soon as you open the door, you find yourself surrounded by your happy and energetic friends. Suddenly, you have drastically changed from a leafless plant into a fruitful one. You feel a surge of energy!

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People are Optimistic, Pessimistic, Positive, Negative and the list goes on. These people make our society and we are a part of it.

Daily we are surrounded by many people across our periphery. It could be our friends, loved ones, colleagues and acquaintances. They all have different attitudes, nature, and behaviour. Some like us and some dislike us. Some are jealous of us while others feel energetic with our presence. Few in the society motivate us, few of them demoralize us and obviously some remain neutral.

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Whoever the people are and whatever their likes and dislikes are it is us that will decide who we surround ourselves with.  Who makes us happy?  Whose company makes our day brilliant or gives us positive vibrations? Such people create ripples in our life and make our environment pacifying and tranquilizing.

We must always associate with people who make our day brilliant and should filter those people out who drain our energy and bring feelings of unhappiness. If we keep hanging onto these anti-social elements, it not only drains our confidence but also injects negative pulses inside our sole and makes us pessimists.

Have you ever seen a big tree laden with beautiful flowers? Have you ever observed a lake overwhelmed with lotuses? These germinate when given optimal conditions and proper care in a suitable environment. Similarly, we grow smarter, better and ingenious in our optimal conditions. We become superlative and positive when we spend our precious time with energized people.

Surround with Positive People

A team does better and gives their best performances when all team members are enthusiastic and support each other. Praise each other’s work and respect it. Even one member in a team can spoil the team’s spirit and that will reflect in individual performances.

“A bad fish can spoil the whole lake.”

Filter out such pessimists, negative sources and uproot them from your life. Soothe your heart with the ecstatic, energetic and positive people and mix their energy with your soul and heart and make yourself a powerful and influential personality, full of energy like a bulldozer.

Keep Smiling.. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Edited and forwarded by Mr. Jeff Botch

Daily Medicine for Wonderful Life

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energy (Photo credit: Sean MacEntee)

Everyday or Let me say in positive sense, most of the time in week we feel exhausted.
Actually since morning am feeling tiring and mentally weak.
Ok, let me take you back to first paragraph, we feel exhausted, tired and energetically very low.

So what are the reasons behind this?
We work in front of computers or laptop for around 7 to 8 hours. Then we drive back home and we throw ourselves on the bed. And yes how can I forget Mobile phones. Constantly checking Emails and Messages on our Smart phones!

Result:

1. Body ache or Head ache
2. Mentally exhausted
3. Negative thoughts revolving around our mind.

So what we must do to gain energy and inject Positive in?

Follow these simple but astonishing steps:

1. While driving back and forth to Home and Workplace always listen Music. I call it music therapy as it pumps spontaneous energy in our soul and body.
2. Never stick your eyes on system continuously for more than 20 minutes. It gives Strain in your eyes and by the evening your eyes become heavy. Drains our energy.
3. Talk with your friends or colleague in between for a while about current topics and news. Remember, please avoid Gossips.
4. Always wear Smile on your. Believe me its the best medicine.
5. When you feel a bit low, take a deep breath in and pause, count 5 and slowly release. Do it for 3 times and see the change.

And yes always filter out negative waves. Dont listen to those who constantly Complain or Criticize.

Feel Energetic and Be Always Positive.

Keep Smiling.. 🙂

Thanks,
Aviral