Which category you come into?

People say, this world is full of millions of people with their mixed emotions. If I will ask you to categorize the types of people according to their emotions and the way they behave, how many categories will you draw?

Hundreds? Or thousands? Putting population in mind, may be billions.

If you will ask me to categorize into different categories, I will divide them in to just TWO categories. (Obviously I may be wrong as it depends on person to person.)

CategoryLets see.

According to me, there are 2 types of Person in this world….

  1. One who listens, other who speaks.
  2. One who understand and learn the Life lessons at right time, others whom Life teaches the lesson.
  3. One who learn from others Smartness, others who behave themselves as Smart.
  4. One who learn from others Mistakes, other who learn from their own Mistakes.
  5. One who enhances Satisfaction, others who enhances Frustration.
  6. One who don’t react to Critics and their Criticisms, others who overreact.
  7. One who controls Anger, others who get controlled by anger.
  8. One who Smile in every situations, others whose smile depends on their moods.
  9. One who enhances Positivity, others who suppress Positivity.
  10. One who accepts own Mistakes, others who Blame.

Finally, I can draw two categories, one I call it Mature-Optimist and other I call it Immature-Pessimist.

Which category you come into?

Keep Smiling.. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

No Strife, No Life

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When we were kids, we enjoyed every moments of our life. When we grew older and entered in teen’s worlds, we got to know a bit about life like a newly born bird comes out of nest and face the dirty world. We started feeling minute level of pressures especially in exams or our so-called-love-life as we indulged ourselves in our love though it was just an infatuation.

As soon as we enter in the world of professionals and corporate we got the real taste of life. When we got married and have family we got to know the word ‘Responsibility’.

Life is not a linear. It’s like stock market graph chart. Rise and falls, ups and downs. stock graphTwists and turns.

When we wake up in the morning we feel fresh and morning dew and fragrance make us rejuvenated. As the day proceed and things keep coming on us, our mood starts fluctuating. Cause of fluctuation may be office work, relationships, family or any external forces. Whatever the reason be, it spontaneously changes our mood and we feel disheartened or happy.

When we talk this at macro level, we call it Life.

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Life is like a roller coaster ride. It gives you bumps at every interval.

Rather than taking it as a frightening experience, we must take it as a learning experience. We must enjoy the ride like we enjoy a roller coaster ride.

I love it when I feel pressure. I love it when I pass through bad phase. I love it when some irrelevant weeds crop up in my life.

Because these, teach me lessons. I learn a lot, examine others and try to find out how to react on these circumstances and trust me this is extremely helpful for our future when we may (obviously will) face bigger issues than today. At that time, we can link to those issues with we faced earlier in life which gives us hint for the optimum solution. It gives us energy to handle the pressure. It teaches us to stay calm in these tougher situations and our maturity level increases.

I personally, have seen many matured people who react weirdly when they face tough situations. They start blaming, shouting and sometimes start badmouthing. You must have seen big politicians, celebrities reacting to media. You guessed right, who enjoys the game and who gets trapped, we all know.

I won’t say, they lose their temper after getting bombarded with these bad happenings, rather I would say they get trapped by these situations. Guess what, we keep repeating the mistakes going forward and never learn.

In these tough situations of life or controversies we must never:

  1. Lose temper
  2. Get panic
  3. Get frightened
  4. Speak abruptly and
  5. React

Just stay calm and be silence for the time being.  Take a deep breath, hold it, count 10 and release slowly. Do it for three times and you will get a solution and feel relaxed.

Go to a calm serene place and think twice, thrice before uttering a single word because harsh words can ruin someone’s life and yours for sure.

These are just temporary and will leave but if not handled properly and smartly will give you a deep impact on your life.

“Thank you for life, and all the little ups and downs that make it worth living.”

Travis Barker

Keep Smiling..

Thanks,

Aviral

 

4Ps can change your life

Everyday we learn something, whether it is about our Career, Relationships or Life. Whatever we learn and absorb in our mind, it makes us grow which reflects on our family. As our family grows, our neighborhood flourishes. Flourishing of our neighborhood leads to cultivation of society. Further, our state grows and country grows. Hence, our world blossoms. Growth always start from a micro level and goes to macro level.

4PsWe human beings are the micro level and World is macro.

To be a successful person, we have to be a better personality, a better person by heart, by attitude which reflects in our maturity.

It is very simple to say, “I am a matured person..”

Now the question is, if you really are a “MATURED” person then why our society, our country and our world isn’t flourishing as it should be?

Why we see hatred and poverty in our society?

Why we get disheartened? Why we are not growing?

Why we do not have patience, why we get so excited and outburst when some one tries to provoke us?

Why our egos come across in our relationships?

There could be numerous questions which can question our humanity.

These are very basic questions which needs to be answered and if you have these Ps then my dear friend you are matured enough. You can actually change the neighborhood, society, country and the whole world.

4Ps can change your life….

  1. Passion
  2. Perseverance
  3. Patience
  4. Politeness

Many entrepreneurs and leaders always said, ‘Follow your Passion’. Go for it which you are passionate about. Do what you love.

“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.”

Oprah Winfrey

But just doing for sake isn’t enough. You have to do it heartily and it needs hard work, courage, dedication, determination. It needs Perseverance because you have to pass through many challenges, many tests which will examine your capabilities.

Life is like a roller coaster. Some time you will enjoy your ride and some time you will not. For such down moments, you need to have Patience. Just give time. You have to be very calm in tough situations. You simply can not go mad and outburst on someone in frustration. Just be like river – silence, serene and patience.

“The two hardest tests on the spiritual road are the patience to wait for the right moment and the courage not to be disappointed with what we encounter.”

Paulo Coelho

Yelling or shouting in frustration is very simple and easy to ease your tension but it surely going to affect your relationships adversely. No just wait… not affect, rather it will actually ruin and break your relations down.

“Spoken words never come back just like an arrow never comes back to bow.”

Relationship are like flowers, it has to be handled with care, with politeness. Being polite actually reflects our humanity.

Politeness can do wonders in our relationships, in our working culture.

“Ceremonies are different in every country, but true politeness is everywhere the same.”

Oliver Goldsmith

your-life-will-changeDevelop these 4Ps and transform your life.

Keep Smiling.. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Destroy the Wall of Ego

 

When we born and entered in this awe-inspiring world, we had Smiles, we were too Energetic. Not just energetic, I would use, we were energetically energized kid with No Egos, with nil Bitterness and had zero bad attitudes.

Life was beautiful. We were out of the world, cared less about tomorrow and loved our parents and spread happiness in lives of our lovely family. Lived in the very moment.

We grew, got to know about parents and siblings much better. Made friends. Got to know our society. Went to school then entered college. Had life partners.

Slowly and Calmly, we nurtured Egos, injected Negativity, Cultivated Hatred.

Ladies and Gentlemen, welcome to the world of ‘Matured People – The Egoistic People’.

In the midst of these life transitions, people say, human becomes more Mature and Intelligent. I simply do not understand the real meaning of ‘Mature‘. The real meaning of ‘Intelligent‘.

My dear friends, I truly don’t understand the most sensitive word ‘Relationship‘.

How a Matured person can actually be so Egoistic, Hatred, Less bothered about his or her relations, Criticize bluntly (My Favorite), Jealous and Disrespecting?

Nevertheless, at the end of the day we feel proud of these ill matureness no matter we had tough time with our lovely and talented colleagues and had a fight with our family members or scolded our kids.

We convert Relation-ships into Sinking-ships.

There is wall of separation between oneself and others. This is Wall of Ego.

Destroy this Wall.

We must Respect our Relationships, our Colleagues, our Society. If not, one day we will be buried for sure under the loneliness. Will get squeezed and wrinkled under the blanket of darkness just like a drying and shrinking flower in the sultry sun.

“Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.”

Mother Teresa

Value the Relationships. Bury the Egos. Respect People we meet. Apologize. Use Thank You and Please often. And most importantly Smile.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral