Expectation thrills, but ills

Today, I am 31 years old with very small career and professional life and three decades of personal life, I can proudly say that I have learned and still learning a lot. Most of the learning lessons came in the last five years of span. I feel lucky.

When we talk about lessons of life, we cannot exclude ‘Expectations’. Because the word Expect directly jabs at our heart, mind and soul.

Expectations play a major role in building ourselves if taken on a positive note. It makes us internally stronger.

michael jordanJust imagine, you are sitting with smiling face in an air-conditioned auditorium listening to an inspiring speech from one of the greatest inspirations on this planet. As time passes by, his euphonious speech webs around your heart, soothes you and make your soul inspired. You are enjoying every bit of seconds. You are expecting more inspiring and heartwarming words which is going to change your life forever.

Suddenly, from nowhere, another person takes the microphone and starts criticising heavily. Starts throwing tantrums and harsh words. Unexpectedly words musical to your ears converted into poignant.

Thorns took shape of roses. Negativity takes place of positivity in a trice. It’s like someone splashed the water on your face while you were indulged in beautiful dreams.

Expectations are like slow sweet poison which gives an instant reaction.

It’s like slowly you build a castle of trust and once it’s built suddenly your loved one ran over and thrashed it. Perplexedly your jaws dropped and leave you dumbfounded.

expectationsI do not say that we should never expect from our loved ones. Obviously we must, but just to be on safer side, it has to be in limit so even if your expectations thrashed, it shouldn’t hurt you.

The less you expect, lesser you get hurt. I know just reading it seems simple but let me tell you my dear friend, in real life it is not as simple as it seems.

It needs patience. A strong heart. A true synchronisation between Heart, Mind and importantly Eyes.

You must be guessing why eyes? Well, when you got hurt in your past, dint you cry or haven’t those moments reflected in your eyes?

Yes it hurts but if we think this from a positive angle then these saddened moments makes us strong and teach us.

It teaches us how to react in such overwrought situations. It teaches us how to handle our state of mind. It teaches us how not to get carried away from these emotional outbursts.

Yes these moments teach us a lot the way it taught me. And today proudly I can say, ‘I am much stronger.’

Never expect or expect least from your friends, loved ones and colleagues. Do for them, help them and be a helping hand in their lives but don’t expect anything in return. Do for them and forget.

Result?

low expectationYou will be the happiest person on this earth.

Keep Smiling and Expect Less. 🙂

Enhance your Roses, not Thorns

If I ask you to count your strengths then list may cross five or even it may reach ten. Now if I ask about your weaknesses. How many weaknesses do you think, you have? A couple of or say three or at the most five.

We are born with weaknesses as well as strengths. These could be physical or internal. We humans have the tendency to enhance or flaunt our strengths and suppress our weaknesses. But when it comes to others, we may start enhancing theirs weaknesses and suppress strengths. We always look others mistakes and weaknesses like searching thorns in flowers and start criticizing.

Let me tell you one story of a man who planted a small beautiful rose plant in his garden. He used to water it faithfully. One day he examined it closely.

He saw the bud that would soon blossom. Suddenly, small minute thorns caught his eyes.rose-thorn He scanned the plant thoroughly. It had a few small thorns on it. As he touched those small thorns, it jabbed. He amazingly thought, ‘How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns?

Saddened by this thought, he stopped watering the plant, and before it was ready to bloom, it weakened and languished.

Source:http://www.stuffwiththing.com/2012/11/every-rose/

Just like rose, we humans are born with fragrant flowers and sharp thorns. There are roses and thorns in our soul.

Roses are our talents, strengths like inspiring, optimistic, friendly etc. and our loving heart which pumps fragrant energy and bring confidence in us just like sunflowers get energy from the rays of rising sun.

Thorns are our faults, our weaknesses like fearful, moody, undisciplined, stubborn etc.

These roses and thorns varies from person to person.

Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns i.e. defects. Hence we conclude, nothing good can possibly come from us. And we stop watering the good within us and eventually it dies within us. We never realize our or others potential and start criticizing and complaining. Finally, it gives birth to pessimism.

StrengthsWeaknessIf someone don’t see roses in them then we must scratch and enhance their strengths and water them rather than criticizing.

find strengthOne of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns and find the roses within others.

This is the characteristic of Love, to look at a person, and knowing his faults, recognize the nobility in his soul and help him realize that he can overcome his faults. If we show him the rose, he will conquer the thorns. We call it building confidence.

Our duty is to enhance roses in others, not thorns. Only then we can achieve the love we should feel for each other; only then can we bloom in our own garden.

Keep Smiling…. 🙂

Thanks,

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