Enhance your Roses, not Thorns

If I ask you to count your strengths then list may cross five or even it may reach ten. Now if I ask about your weaknesses. How many weaknesses do you think, you have? A couple of or say three or at the most five.

We are born with weaknesses as well as strengths. These could be physical or internal. We humans have the tendency to enhance or flaunt our strengths and suppress our weaknesses. But when it comes to others, we may start enhancing theirs weaknesses and suppress strengths. We always look others mistakes and weaknesses like searching thorns in flowers and start criticizing.

Let me tell you one story of a man who planted a small beautiful rose plant in his garden. He used to water it faithfully. One day he examined it closely.

He saw the bud that would soon blossom. Suddenly, small minute thorns caught his eyes.rose-thorn He scanned the plant thoroughly. It had a few small thorns on it. As he touched those small thorns, it jabbed. He amazingly thought, ‘How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns?

Saddened by this thought, he stopped watering the plant, and before it was ready to bloom, it weakened and languished.

Source:http://www.stuffwiththing.com/2012/11/every-rose/

Just like rose, we humans are born with fragrant flowers and sharp thorns. There are roses and thorns in our soul.

Roses are our talents, strengths like inspiring, optimistic, friendly etc. and our loving heart which pumps fragrant energy and bring confidence in us just like sunflowers get energy from the rays of rising sun.

Thorns are our faults, our weaknesses like fearful, moody, undisciplined, stubborn etc.

These roses and thorns varies from person to person.

Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns i.e. defects. Hence we conclude, nothing good can possibly come from us. And we stop watering the good within us and eventually it dies within us. We never realize our or others potential and start criticizing and complaining. Finally, it gives birth to pessimism.

StrengthsWeaknessIf someone don’t see roses in them then we must scratch and enhance their strengths and water them rather than criticizing.

find strengthOne of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns and find the roses within others.

This is the characteristic of Love, to look at a person, and knowing his faults, recognize the nobility in his soul and help him realize that he can overcome his faults. If we show him the rose, he will conquer the thorns. We call it building confidence.

Our duty is to enhance roses in others, not thorns. Only then we can achieve the love we should feel for each other; only then can we bloom in our own garden.

Keep Smiling…. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Flush the Stress and Relax

One fine evening, one of my friends came to my home. He looked stressed and disturbed. He seemed to be in extreme pressure. I asked him the reason of the stress.

“It’s because of work pressure and due to this I scolded my wife at home”, he replied.mental-stress

I thought for a while.

I went inside the kitchen and brought a glass of water and asked him, “How heavy is this glass of water?”

He replied amazingly, “May be around 300 gm.”

I continued, “What if I ask you to hold it for a while may be for a minute? Then there would not be any problem. If you hold it for an hour, then you will have ache in your right arm. If you hold for a day, then without a doubt I have to hospitalize you. “

I added, “Weight does not matter at all, does it?”

In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer we hold it, the heavier it seems.

“Now you compare this with stress. If we carry all the burdens on our shoulders and problems in our mind all the time, sooner or later, the burden seems to be a like Mount Everest on our mind and won’t be able to carry it.”

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Source: bloggingbehavioral.blogspot.com

Now, I asked him to hold the glass till he feels pain in his arms. He held it for around five minutes and then put it down.

I said, “As you felt pain, you have to put the glass down and need some rest to hold it back.”

When we are refreshed, we can carry on with the burden and pressure.

Finally I concluded, “Whenever you return home tonight, put the burden of work down and do not carry it home just like you remove dusty shoes before entering the home. Relax and enjoy with your family and just forget the pressure of office or burden of professional life. By not doing this, you are not only injecting more stress and creating a headache but also you may ruin your relationships at home.”

My friend seemed more satisfied and he thanked me for the motivational lesson.

Life is beautiful so never take stress. Stress and mental burdens are just temporary and it has no place in the beautiful mind.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Happy Holi

Beautiful word for you only on this Holi,
The best gift I’ve received in my life is your Love,
My world has no meaning without you.
Enjoy The Colours Of Holi
Happy HOLI to all my friends across the world.. 🙂

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Auspicious red.
Sunkissed gold.
Soothing silver.
Pretty purple.
Blissful blue.
Forever green.
 May this year brings colourful moments in your life.

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Keep Smiling and Always be Positive.. 🙂

Rejuvenate Yourself

Thanks,

Aviral

Find your motivational boosters and change your life

What is the purpose of bathing?

  1. To freshen up.
  2. To remove dirt from the body.
  3. To look fresh and feel great.

Zig ZiglarLet’s put it another way.  Whatever you buy (any materialistic body), after sometime it needs to be repaired.  The same goes with us.

When we wake up in the morning we feel fresh, energetic and enthusiastic.  You give me some work; I can do it with the highest accuracy.  We feel motivated and galvanized and this reflects in our body language.

As the day passes, energy slowly drains out from our soul like sand slips from our fingers and we feel tired.  We feel motiveless and negativity starts entering in.

Here is my personal experience.  I work enthusiastically until lunch. I attempt to finish my important tasks within this session.  I always try to learn new things within this time frame.  But post lunch, my energy descends drastically, just like an inverse exponential graph.  After 3:00 pm, I need a cup of tea to energize myself.  I then listen to music to create motivation.

There are multiple ways to create motivation but the fact is we need to inject that passion back in our mind and heart.  Motivation degrades periodically and we need to understand what gives us our motivation.

Do you watch football?  Players utilize energy drinks throughout the game.  Why?  It’s to energize them and get rid of exhaustion. Similarly, we need motivation.  Motivation keeps us going and without it we can’t accomplish our goals.

Let me provide you with a few ways to motivate yourself when you are feeling low…

  1. Drink water – You must have heard numerous times, drink at least 2 litres of water daily. Water makes us less stressed.  Water directly reflects on brain function and you will lose efficiency by not drinking enough.  Bottom line is drinking lots of water increases energy and releases fatigue.
  2. Talk to friends – Yes talking with friends and those who are close to you will actually refresh your mood.  Perhaps you can chat with your co-workers/colleagues during your break.  I would recommend avoiding gossip.
  3. Go for a Walk – Go for a short walk with friends/colleagues.  It will provide you with a refreshed mind and it will allow you to stretch your legs.  Walking helps blood circulation.
  4. Read books – Reading a book is different from reading online.  I would recommend reading a book.  You learn something new and it changes your mood. Make it a habit to read for thirty minutes a day.
  5. Eat Fruits – An apple a day keeps the doctor away.  It’s easy to eat fruit throughout your day and it provides vitamins, fiber and minerals.  The more our body absorbs these, the more mental and physical strength we build.

Motivational GraphOur life is like a sinusoidal graph, full of peaks and valleys.  When we are high, we do things best and achieve better results.  On the other hand, when we are exhausted, even simple tasks can become difficult just like climbing Mt. Everest.

So, the point here is to say, every one of us needs energy boosters to pump the energy back to the highest levels and it has to be done constantly.  So keep yourself moving and continue to provide yourself with motivation.

“Motivation is what gets you started.

Habit is what keeps you going.”

– Jim Rohn

Keep Smiling…. 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Edited and forwarded by Mr. Jeff Botch

Happy New Year, 2013 is Ours

Today may be the last day of this fabulous year.

Today may be the last moments of this incredible year.

Today may be the last learning experience of 2012.

But tomorrow will be a new beginning.

A new beginning of Life. A new beginning of Love. Tomorrow’s first Sun rays will bring a new ray of Hope. A hope which will transform into Reality, a reality of my dreams. My imagination will prosper. My New Years Resolution will blossom just like a seed gets sprouted in a new sunlight.

Coming year – 2013 will be a special year for all of us, our society and loved ones. All our plans and resolution will get fulfilled and we will be the most happiest person on this planet.

We will make ourselves a better Personality and a good Human being by improving…

HEALTH
  • Drink plenty of Water
  • Eat Breakfast like a King, Lunch like a Prince and Dinner like a Beggar
  • Live with 3 Es: Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
  • Make time to Pray
  • Hangout with Friends and Loved ones
  • Read more books than we did in previous year
  • Spend time for Myself
  • Exercise Daily
PERSONALITY
  • Will never take our-self Seriously
  • Will never waste our energy and time after Gossips
  • Will Dream in the day
  • Will forgive all those who hurt me
  • Will spread Love and Smile
  • Will always have a good Attitude
  • Will make Peace
  • Will spread Happiness and never ruin my Present
  • Will always avoid Arguments
SOCIETY
  • We will call our Family often
  • We will always give beautiful surprise to our loved ones
  • We shall never use harsh words
  • We will Respect our Elders
  • We will Smile to our neighbors
LIFE
  • Do the right thing
  • We will learn from our pasts
  • God heals everything
  • We will never get panic and worried as these are just temporary
  • We will always be Calm and Happy in all the Situations

“We will open the book.  Its pages are blank.  We are going to put words on them ourselves.  The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.”

– Edith Lovejoy Pierce

Happy New YearSource: http://spectrumwellness.net

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral