Expect Less, Respect Dress

Yesterday I along with my friend were discussing about Relationships and Expectations from our closed ones. The topic of discussion was how expectations directly or indirectly ruin the best of the relations. We shared our experiences and knowledge with each other and finally concluded that, in relationship were love binds us, expectation also plays its own role. It’s like in garden of grass, weeds do grow in small patches and you cannot get rid of them at all.

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Later on she asked me, ‘Aviral can you please help me in writing a caption for my WhatsApp status?’

Thought for a second and wrote – “Expect Less, Respect Dress”

As soon as she read the caption she burst into laughter and laughingly asked me, ‘What does this mean as it sounds so weird?’

I replied, ‘Actually sounds a bit funny but let me explain. We should expect less from our friends and family, do you agree?’

She responded affirmatively.

I continued, ‘When we say that we should have less expectations from our loved ones then does this make sense to have high expectations from acquaintances or impossible people who made our lives difficult.’

You guessed right, we should never expect from impossible people. Like you, she replied, ‘We should never expect from these people.’

Expectations are just like weeds, they are redundant and whatever effort you put in to get rid of them they still grow and grow again and again. Similarly, we tell ourselves that now we will stop expecting from our closed ones but by end of the day knowingly or unknowingly we expect from them.

Don’t we? 🙂

Yes we do. Because we love them. Because our heart don’t restrict us to do this. Sometime we also expect from acquaints or impossible people. Obviously our rate of expectations with such people is less than as compared to our closed ones. But we do a fraction of bit. Because they are also our part of life.

These people hurt us. Make our lives miserable. Disrespect us. Annoy us. Ignore us. And they can go to any extent to make us unhappy.

Now the question here is, Should we disrespect them in return?

I am sorry to say this, the answer is “No”.

We should never disrespect anyone in our life no matter how they behave with us. Because the more you respect people, back in their heart they start respecting you. Obviously it may take time as it depends on person to person but I can bet you they will respect you in return. If not in front of you but they will for sure at your back.

They will dress you of Respect. People will start respecting you. They start loving and liking you even if they do not show in your presence but believe me a seed of respect will surely plant in somewhere in their heart.

On the other hand, disrespecting people in return will surely be a win situation for them and not for you because by badmouthing you will be the sufferer not them as they want you to react.

And in the worst case, we must ignore these peculiar spooks and loony situations as ignoring is one of the best solutions.

Your mind is made for better ideas and heart is for loving people not for hatred and ego. And most importantly we must never lose our self-respect.

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Keep Smiling… 🙂

We are Best

Life is wonderful, so we are.

God has created such a beautiful world, so he has created us too.

Everything near us: Society, Atmosphere, Plants, Animals, Birds, each and every proximity has its own beauty and resembles something unique. Unique which can never be copied, duplicated, avoided, ignored or disrespected.

We Love our surroundings and directly we respect and appreciate it.

Similarly, we should never disrespect ourselves.

Why? Because we are surrounded by so many beautiful positive things which constantly injects confidence in us, rejuvenate us, energizes us and makes us extremely happy.

We are at our best. I am at my best because am surrounded by the most fascinating, pulchritudinous and energetic personalities in the world – you.

I feel lucky because god has sent me at the right time at the right location with the right people. I am extremely lucky.

With so much positive vibrations revolving around me like positive electrons revolving around the nucleus. My life is beautiful and extremely strong like a nucleus.

My life is extremely beautiful.

I would love to say Thank You to God, You and such wonderful green fragrant environment. An aroma which purify our soul and heart and make us immune, which prevents us from negative vibes.

I feel Energetic. And this positive energy makes my Life and Society Healthy.

We all are Lucky, Healthy, Intelligent and priceless.

Keep Smiling…. 🙂

Anger makes you Insane

One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. “You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake.”

Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man politely, “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?”

The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered. “It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.”

The Buddha smiled and said, “That is correct. And it’s exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger fall back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.”

“If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone along with you is happy.”

Man asked surprisingly, “Why you did not feel insulted?”

The Buddha again asked him the second question, “If I give your two fruits and among them one is fresh and juicy while the other is dusted and not fresh, which fruit will you eat?”

Man obviously replied the first one. Buddha smiled and asked again, “Why?”.

He replied, “The dusted fruit can make me ill.”

The Buddha said, “Exactly. That dusted layer is the layer of ego. I did not get insulted because neither I do have any ego nor I did something wrong. Ego kills us and leads to ill-health and disrespectful.”

The young man listened closely to these wise words of the Buddha and apologized.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

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25 Life Lessons Learned by Me

1. Relationships matter the most, so preserve them.
2. Don’t speak to any when you are in anger.
3. Think Twice. Thrice. Hundred times before criticizing anyone.
4. Time has the power to heal anything.
5. Always be Polite. Calm. Maintain your vibrations of your mind.
6. Always try to control your Heart and Mind rhythms. If can’t be controlled, can be dangerous for you.
7. Love from your heart but not from your mind. Think from your mind not from your heart. Most of the time, we mix them.
8. Live in present moment even in pressurized state of mind.
9. The best way to being motivated is – Motivate others.
10. Critics are wonderful creatures. Learn from them.
11. Take Risks. I believe, take more risks when you feel luck is on your side.
12. Smile is a wonderful gift. Let it spread like a virus.
13. Feeling a bit low? Listen to motivational music. It will rejuvenate you.
14. Believe in God. When feeling tensed, pass it on to God. They are always there for you.
15. Laugh loud with friends and behave childish with your loved ones.
16. Never argue with any one. It’s better to lose arguments most of the time.
17. Never discuss anyone’s: Religion, Relationships and Diseases
18. Always be positive and behave positively.
19. Don’t judge people by their first impressions.
20. Never regret.
21. Be a Day dreamer.
22. Exercise daily. It rejuvenate your confidence as well as body.
23. Never underestimate yourself as you are the beautiful gift to someone.
24. Always give more and expect nothing.
25. Always use words: Please, Thank you and Sorry.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral

Flush the Stress and Relax

One fine evening, one of my friends came to my home. He looked stressed and disturbed. He seemed to be in extreme pressure. I asked him the reason of the stress.

“It’s because of work pressure and due to this I scolded my wife at home”, he replied.

I thought for a while.

I went inside the kitchen and brought a glass of water and asked him, “How heavy is this glass of water?”

He replied amazingly, “May be around 300 gm.”

I continued, “What if I ask you to hold it for a while may be for a minute? Then there would not be any problem. If you hold it for an hour, then you will have ache in your right arm. If you hold for a day, then without a doubt I have to hospitalize you. “

I added, “Weight does not matter at all, does it?”

In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer we hold it, the heavier it seems.

“Now you compare this with stress. If we carry all the burdens on our shoulders and problems in our mind all the time, sooner or later, the burden seems to be a like Mount Everest on our mind and won’t be able to carry it.”

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Now, I asked him to hold the glass till he feels pain in his arms. He held it for around five minutes and then put it down.

I said, “As you felt pain, you have to put the glass down and need some rest to hold it back.”

When we are refreshed, we can carry on with the burden and pressure.

Finally I concluded, “Whenever you return home tonight, put the burden of work down and do not carry it home just like you remove dusty shoes before entering the home. Relax and enjoy with your family and just forget the pressure of office or burden of professional life. By not doing this, you are not only injecting more stress and creating a headache but also you may ruin your relationships at home.”

My friend seemed more satisfied and he thanked me for the motivational lesson.

Life is beautiful so never take stress. Stress and mental burdens are just temporary and it has no place in the beautiful mind.

Keep Smiling… 🙂

Thanks,

Aviral